I Wish I Had One

I wish that every person that we help would put the reforms into practice 100% and see just how much better they feel.

It is one of the greatest frustrations to spend 2 weeks with a person teaching them, cooking for them and working with them to help them get well and then later have them tell me all the things they have done to sabotage the work that has been done. I was talking to a person recently that was a guest of ours. He told me how he had lost 10 pounds while he was here. He told me how he was off of 2 of the 3 blood pressure drugs he was wanting to get off of. He told me of his hopes that he could get off the last one soon. Then later he began telling me about the yogurt he had the day before. Then he mentioned that he and his girlfriend had some chickens and were eating their eggs. Then he told me that he had some ice cream recently. Just a little of this and just a little of that and just a bit of the other. How it hurt to think that all this work we had done was going to be a huge disappointment for him the next time he goes to see the doctor. Because I know that his health will be back to where it was before he came. I just want to cry at times like that. If I ever find someone that will put their whole heart into getting well and staying well I will cry tears of joy. I want that for everyone that watches my videos and I want it for everyone that comes to our retreat. I want it for our family but I don't know if I will every find that one person. I hope so. If I had a million dollars I would give it to that one person.

I can look back to one man that made the changes. His name is Bill. He had had triple bypass surgery and was on 17 pills a day. I mentioned to him the idea of going to Weimar Institute. He checked into them and ordered their homestyle video set and he and his wife watched and actually put what they learned into practice. He began walking. A couple of years later I saw them and he told me that he was off all but one of the pills and was so happy. I wish I could have stayed in touch with them but they moved away. So I will keep that story in mind and hope that someday I will find another one like Bill.

The Bus Stop Of Misery

This morning I read an interesting comment that got me thinking. It read: "There is many a wife hungering for an occasional word of approval, who will be buried in a rosewood casket."

As I went to fix breakfast I began pondering the quote and I thought of how futile it would be to sit at the curb of a street that had no bus service and wait for days, weeks maybe even months for a bus that just doesn't come there. If someone did that we would look at them and probably wag our heads and say that they have lost their minds. But women who waste their mental energy in expecting something that is not part of their husbands character is like waiting for a bus that isn't coming. Why wait for something that won't happen?

A woman may ask: "Well then how do we get our sense of self worth? How are we suppose to feel better about ourselves?" I think the first thing to do is to set a right example for him to follow and begin looking at his virtues and make our focus what HE does that is good and right and worthy of a compliment. Tell him that we appreciate his efforts to do something that is good. Every man has his virtues. Think on those and make mention of them. This one thing will actually do two things. It will stop our own negative thoughts and replace them with contented thoughts. And it will gradually change our husband as he sees a sweet, kind, gentle person. By beholding our kindness he will become kind and thoughtful.

Second, don't expect your husband to be the source of all your happiness. In other words make God your God instead of your husband being your God. Jesus loved you so much that he came and died for you. He wants to give you everlasting happiness in heaven. Out of all the huge universe He is a whisper away and is ready to listen to your chatter all day long. He wants to tenderly care for you and can fill that need you feel is lacking from a husband. He will give you wisdom to know how to speak to your husband and will help you bind your affections to your husband even if he doesn't meet every expectation you have. Find an old favorite hymn or learn a new one or a scripture song from off the internet and begin singing a song to the One that is always there to help.

Third, let us remember that no one wants to draw closer to a grump or a complainer. Treat your husband as you would a cat. If I want to attract a cat to me I wouldn't get a squirt gun and squirt it every time it turned away from me. That would just make the cat run away all the faster. No. The way to attract a cat is to talk softly, gently and feed it things it likes. I would get down at the level of the cat and let it sniff my hand and pet it. I would do those things that the cat enjoys.

Wild Food

Recently my husband and I were looking at our old garden that is located at the other end of our property and we noticed that so many of the vegetable plants had for a couple of generations have gone to seed and naturalized themselves into the area around the planters. It occured to us that maybe they could naturalize around the house. Since the carrots seem to be the most adventurous I began gathering seed from them, took them home and scattered the seeds on the downhill side of the yard.

This year one carrot plant did come up and so far the gophers haven't eaten it yet. That one carrot has now gone to seed and is ready to plant the next generation of carrots. I am hopeful that they will grow and spread around.

Now for the walking Egyptian onions. If I can just get them to walk over here. :)