Psycology's Boxes

I was recently talking with an acquaintance who told me that someone was "controlling". As I considered the comment I recognized that this was the way the psychologist looks at people. They have this great desire to put people in boxes and label them. The problem with this idea is that it is rooted in evil surmising. It doesn't look at the uniqueness or the motivation of the person and with that label comes a host of methods of dealing with the person according to the misconception of the one doing the evil surmising and the psychologist that has never met the one under consideration. The person in this case was a very kind and loving person who was trying to help the evil surmiser. Their efforts were being viewed from a perspective that didn't look at the motives but only the self centered perspective of the one that had listened to pop psychology. Christ said, "If ye love me keep my commandments". This worldly view of others would label God as being a "control freak" but they fail to see the love that motivates God. It is love that prompts a parent to keep their child from swallowing a bottle of pills---it is love that prompts a parent to grab their child as they begin to dart in front of a car and it was love that prompted the actions of this person to help their friend but it was selfishness that labeled his efforts as being controlling. How I wish people could see beyond the labels and see the person and learn to love them not because they are perfect but because they just might have some wisdom to share that would save them from making a serious mistake. My fear is that selfishness and ingratitude is often what prompts such labeling of other people.  I hope that we can all see beyond the appearances and look deeper from the perspective of the other person. Put the best motives on their actions and treat them kindly and our own health will be better. Labels do nothing to help a relationship, they only block communication and create a wall of discontent.